My worth is unmentionable; you cannot put a price on me Portuguese and black sister with God’s love to proclaim. Light skinned sista with light colored eyes. Oh yes we come in different colors, in shapes, and size. A very proud black woman, a true artifact of class. You couldn’t rate me with a dirty coin. A dime piece?!!! PLEASE I will surely pass. I love and fear God, there’s no shame in my game. Wont was a second ignoring a man calling me baby, ma, or shorty… My mother already gave me a name. You Cant determine my being a woman from the wiggle in my behind, But do it by how I respect people whether they’re cripple, crazy, or blind. For Jesus is love and he surely loves you and me. And for that I love myself…I hope there are a few more sistas out there like me - Dr. Red
A few days ago, me and a cousin-like figure were hanging out and I mentioned that I think I have become a white-man magnet. (whole diff story lol) She comments, “that’s a good thing. then your kids can have nice hair!” she also said something about avoiding nappy kids.
Now if you know me, then you know I shut that down real quick. I let her know that first of all, my hair is already nice enough and it got that way from TWO african parents. (it spirals when wet, blows in the wind whether natural state or straightened - not tryna brag tho bc I don’t always like it. it sheds and splits like crazy and there are random lengths bc im impatient as well as scissor-happy.) I also told her straight up that I know a lot of mixed kids who actually hate their hair.
Being bi- or multiracial does not guarantee your hair to be long, soft, curly, thick, or without split ends. African American friends and cohorts, please, let’s stop with all this.
African American and African women are one of the most, if not THE MOST, downtrodden demographic in the US. And believe it or not, hair IS a black woman’s pride. (not saying it is the only one tho). So distinguishing ourselves between good and bad hair is just division to place one group above another.
Am I to be more desirable than another equally beautiful woman because you think my hair is “good?” What if I think HERS is good? Should I feel inferior to her while you view me as superior? Do you not see how ridiculous this is?
GOOD HAIR IS HAIR THAT DOES WHAT YOU WANT IT TO DO!
If you wanted it to go into a ponytail and it did, you’ve got good hair.
If you didn’t get it into the ponytail and decided to twist it up instead, guess what? You’ve got good hair.
If it didn’t’ twist either, you got mad and decided to shave and snip random parts, then wound up loving it, YOU HAVE GOOD HAIR!
Geez, crap, damn, fuck.
Get out of other women’s heads and learn to feel good about your own without putting others down.
Rather than saying ‘I have good hair’ which means there are others who don’t, why not try just saying, ‘I love my hair.’ I mean, there still are others who don’t, but at least now you’re not comparing yourself or putting others down.
Your blog honestly makes me really happy, so I decided to sumbit a picture. This is me, three days before I graduated with a 2.9 GPA—one off from honors graduation. One of the comments on this picture was “Your eyes are pretty, they look grey! I didn’t know dark skinned girls could have grey eyes! Are they contacts like the other ones? You’re pretty for a dark skinned girl!”
Number one, the person who commented is…she’s not the sharpest person around. My eyes are some wonky shade of brown, and she’s seen them. I usually wear glasses, so she knows damn well my normal color isn’t contacts. Not every pretty eyed dark skinned girl wears contacts. Now that that’s been established, we can move on.
Second, I hate when people go and ruin a compliment with by tagging “for a black girl” on the end. I spent years being ridiculed for being dark, told I was worth nothing, and in a way tagging that on the end reinforces the thought. I still have some issues with being dark, but that’s okay I graduated high school with some pretty good grades, I’ve got some pretty big dreams, and I’ve got a pretty big mouth to tell people exactly what I think of their pretty stupid ideas about my skin.
being coated with one of the many beautiful shades God has covered us all with. It means being compared to the likes of chocolate kisses and golden wrapped Ferrero Rocher delicacies. It means standing out as the beautiful contradiction at the PWU (predominantly white university) you attend. It means loving the shade you possess in all its glory kissed by the sun. It means beauty personified, despite what television, radio, rappers, wanna-be scientists, and all of society tries to say. It means loving yourself the way you are. It means developing the innate strength necessary to teach our future brown girls and boys that ALL complexions are beautiful, and the deep, beautifully rich pigments are absolutely no exception.
hiiiiiii =-) i’m a brown girl and i wear Bright lipsticks! im talking orange, hot pinks, baby pinks, purples! u name it i own it and wear it and i think all brown and dark skin women should do the same!! We need to dispel that myth that dark girls can only rock nudes and burgundy shades -__-
BANTU KNOTS!!! if you’re transitioning bantu knots are your besties!!! they blend the natural and relaxed hair. Don’t do them while your hair is still wet. Make sure your hair is a little damp, and put them in and they look great.
growing up i hated my skin and hair. i used to wear skirts on my head to pretend i had long hair. but now i love my skin and my hair. ive embraced how i look and i love it and so does my boyfriend. learn to love yourselves my beautiful dark sistas!
Women of color have some of the most beautiful skin tones around. However, despite many women using African American makeup, hardly any of them are able to pull off the look they want.
Mind the Undertones: Whether you’re using Iman, CoverGirl, Avon or any other brand, the first thing you need to keep in mind is the undertones of your skin. This is one of the important African American makeup tips that many women are unaware of. If you know your undertones, you will be able to determine which colors suit you best. For example, if you have cool undertones, you will be able to easily pull off blue shades of makeup.
Find Flawless Foundation: While selecting your foundation, make sure that it suits your skin tone best. Some lists of African American makeup tips mention that you can use two different shades of foundation that match your darker and lighter areas best. However, you can find foundation shades from big names like Molton Brown that will suit your whole face.
Blush vs. Bronzer: Blush is one of the important makeup products you should use. However, always make sure that it complements your skin color. For example, you can hunt Sephora or Macys for mauve blush if your shade is medium to dark. However, African American makeup tips agree that using a bronzer is a better idea.
Lighten your touch: One of the most common African American makeup tips is using dramatic colors to enhance African American women’s skin tone. However, use bold shades with a light touch, to get a fresh look rather than a caked one.
Must-use-Mascara: Of all the African American makeup tips, the easiest one to implement is using black mascara. For your day makeup, use two to three coats, whereas at night, simply use one coat of mascara.
Satisfy your Skin Type: In addition to these African American makeup tips, you need to keep your skin type in mind. Water-based makeup may be a better choice if you have normal to oily skin, whereas mineral makeup, such as that offered by bareMinerals will be a better choice for other skin types.
Tinted Powder: All makeup tips agree that using powder will help you set your makeup. However, African American makeup tips prefer that you use tinted powder instead. That way you won’t have to worry about getting light or white patches.
Gloss it Over: Instead of researching African American makeup tips to find the trendiest lipstick shade, why not try gloss? Using it will give your lips a beautiful shimmer.
Try, Try Again: One of the most neglected yet effective African American makeup tips is experimenting with colors. Not all color shades will suit you, thus you should find out which do and which don’t.
Ask Around: Don’t shy away from asking salesgirls for the best African American makeup tips. They have a variety of clients, so use their experience to your advantage. These are important African American makeup tips you should remember to always look great in whatever makeup you wear!
i never really noticed how dark my skin was until my freshman year of high school. my close friend at the time (who happend to be light skinned) and i were talking about boys and i remember her saying something about how guys liked light skinned girls with long hair more than dark skinned girls. she wasnt talking about herself nor was she saying she looked better than me. she was just stating what she knew to be facts. something completely new to me.
i’ve always loved my skin tone. i was lucky enough that the mostly white neighborhood i live in until i was 12 praised diversity. I never saw my white friends as white people or my indian friends as indians and i never counted how many other black people were in the room with me until i moved away from my “diverse” neighborhood and into a neighborhood in a different state that was made up mostly by black people.
it was a good neighborhood. middle to upper middle class but i guess the issues of the black community follow black people no matter where you go.
ive never had any issue when it came to dating and my skin tone. my current boyfriend tells me that he loves my skin color just as often as he calls me beautiful and compliments my smile (and yes it is often :) ).
yeah, before i met my current boyfriend ive ran into guys who only like light skinned or white girls but ive come to learn that a man who is not interested in me only because of my skin tone is of no value to me. (besides i havent run into any guys who were specifically cute who only liked light skinned girls yet).
i would never allow myself to date a man who “prefers” lighter skinned girls because i would never feel comfortable or confident in a relationship where my man sees a whole group of other girls as more attractive than me.
the way i see it my boyfriend/husband will have to be able to see me as the most beautiful/sexist/stunning girl in the world in his eyes because i could see all of that of him in my eyes.
i am one of the lucky dark skinned girls who developed confidence in her skin tone before anyone was able to to install a feeling of inferiority in me. for that i am grateful.