Saw a post about skin color and it reminded me about this
I work in PR/advertising/communications I know all about “messaging” and “truthiness” but this ish is exactly why I got into PR-to change ish like this.
Don’t put on this “real beauty” front Dove….I’m onto you.
«If everyone is a product of this society, who will say the things that need to be said, and do the things that need to be done, without compromise? Truth will never start out popular in a world more concerned with marketability than righteousness. It will initially suffer ridicule and even violence- yet ultimately it is undeniable. All of humanity is living in a dream world, but suffering real consequences.»
Yes, I made up a word. It’s my blog I can do that. The official word is “Colorism”
When I was younger, around the age of 8, I called my mother light-skinned and she gently told me “I do not like to be called light-skinned.” She went on to say something but I don’t remember what. That sentence…
«Realize that anyone who tries to put you down about your appearance is assuming that it is your job to please them visually. Once you realize that it isn’t your job to be visually pleasing to anyone, ever, it becomes very hard for anyone to make you feel bad about yourself.»
I had a really interesting discussion about identity, self hate, cultural capital etc with my BFF today and it got me thinking of Margaret Bowland’s selection of paintings of young black girls in white face. When asked to comment on ‘Kenyetta and Brianna’ Bowland that ‘It is a commentary on how women still have to jump through all these hoops to be desirable. These girls are still visible beneath all those layers of crap … they’re still looking back at you.’ I think that a lot of black girls looking at Bowland’s paintings would say that the metaphor transcends beyond the art world. For many black girls Bowland’s paintings are a life metaphor - reflecting a reality where black girls are often marginalised by European standards of beauty. I agree with Cherise Kramarae when she states that ‘For women of color who are viewers, trying to achieve idealised femininity entails not only adjusting or refining one’s body, but also rejecting one’s identity and certain characteristics altogether. To resist this artificial standard is to stand apart from beauty as defined by society’. The frustrating thing for me is that even if you put the fact that there is very little aesthetic diversity across all media platforms to the side, in the black community we impose European standards of beauty on each other with a vengeance. It’s black men that make fun of Alek Wek and it’s black girls arguing about natural hair v relaxer/weave war (e.g ‘These little nappy headed hoes need a terminator’ - Nicki Minaj) etc. It’s this infighting that is the real tragedy.
Is it ok for a woman…black woman to walk through the streets and experience taunting, derogatory and grotesque comments.
Why is it ok for a black woman to walk through the streets without saying anything about these common from black men?
And if she says something she’s a bitch, she’s not fine anymore or worse she’s verbally sometimes physically attacked.
what do you do?
Allow men to continue to speak fowl to you or take a stand by expressing your frustration and even risk your life doing so.
This is wrong. Black men especially should be the most nurturing and protective of us as we make our ways through this world.
Their sexual and grotesque comments need to be kept to themselves.
Men don’t realize how this can break a woman down…how it can stress her out, cause her to experience anxiety…this goes especially for women who aren’t asking for attention or don’t carry themselves in that manner.
Why can’t they see us or even me as someone else’s child that they’re saying these inappropriate things to?
Why can’t they refrain from saying these things especially if they have a daughter or desire to have one?
Its already hard being a woman but a black woman is even harder…you have the double negative…you experience racism and sexism.
White men don’t do this and white women can’t begin to fathom what we experience on a daily basis.
I’m so sick of this shit…I don’t care if we live in a male dominated society or if this is sickly apart of our culture…it needs to stop.
A black woman got shot and killed for expressing her frustration after a black man had said inappropriate things to her.
And this is ok?
Oh so you can tell me that you’d like to do things with my body that I would never imagine and I’m not supposed to say a word?
Like seriously, us as human beings are slowly learning to hate ourselves and go through extreme measures to fit society’s vision of a beautiful person. Let’s take a look at society’s idea of black beauty.
Im tired of playing second best to light skinned girls. The mindset, opinions, judgments and ignorance coming from the guys within the black community damages my own mindset, opinion and judgments about myself. I wouldn’t play second best in a relationship or in my career, so why must I play the role within this cruel black community. The flipside is it’s only in the black community, and I’m bigger than the black community. I want all of you beautiful ladies to travel outside of the U.S. and be delighted by how wonderful other cultures treat you.